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• Radical Self-Care

  Posted: June 16, 2020

  Categories: Personal Story , Tips , Self Care
  

  To take care of others, you must first take care of yourself. But what does "self-care" look like in the face of protest and social unrest? Erika E. Wade shares her personal story of how self-care has transformed from an indulgent buzz word into something more meaningful during the Black Lives Matter global uprisings of 2020.

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• I’m 28 and Just Learned What a Real Orgasm Is

  Posted: May 12, 2020

  Categories: Dating , Masturbation , Masturbation Month , Personal Story , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Relationships , Self Care , Sex , Sexuality , Sex Toys , Vibrators
  

  By Erika E. Wade

  This is gonna be sad, but I believe I’m having a crisis. What if sex hasn’t led to orgasms for me in the past. What if I was so good at faking it, I fooled myself? At this age, and with the amount of sex toys I have, I’m realizing having an orgasm during sex is, well, hard. Now I know what my Big O feels like, I’m going for it at all costs. Maybe you can too.

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• Breathe It: How to Incorporate Breathwork into Sex

  Posted: April 16, 2020

  Categories: Estoterica , Masturbation , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Self Care , Sex
  

  By Gabriela Herstik

  Our breath is our personal connection to the life-force energy inside us, but for many of us, we don’t notice our breath until it’s gone. In sex, this is especially important, and our breath can form a bridge between us and our partner or ourselves and our pleasure. When we ignore our breath, we are limiting our ability to feel, to express, and to connect; holding our breath limits our ability to feel into our body. By incorporating breathwork into sex and masturbation, we can form more purposeful connections to our partners and dive even deeper into our pleasure, while getting out of our heads and into the moment. In this post, Gabriela shares a handful of simple breathing techniques we can use before, during or after sex to connect more deeply to our erotic experience. This will include some tantric breathwork, as well as simple two, three and four part breaths that help to guide us into the present.

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