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• What Is My Kink?

  Posted: March 22, 2021

  Categories: Dating , Erotica , Interview , Masturbation , Personal Story , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Relationships , LGBTQ , Sex , Sexuality
  

  WHAT'S MY KINK?

  It seems every person on the planet has some kind of Kink that they're either interested in trying or desperate to keep doing. Having a special kind of consensual sexual interaction that you like the most does not make you a freak, at least not anymore. Where I live in LA, entire communities of kinky people get together under a common interest, and many of those interests are not exactly mainstream. It got me thinking. What is my Kink? I'm an open-minded lady. I'm tolerant, I'm accepting, I open my arms to all kinds. So why don't I have a kink? I went on a hunt to figure it out.

  WHAT IS A KINK?

  Since I'm no sex-meister, I referred to Los Angeles based marriage family and sex therapist Liz Selzer-Lang, LMFT, for a professional explanation. She explained that in the professional world they don't refer to someone as having a kink:

  "Kink is a broad, umbrella term that describes

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• Sex & the City & the Quarantine

  Posted: February 15, 2021

  Categories: Dating , Masturbation , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Relationships , Sex , Sexuality
  

  Sex & the City & the Quarantine: What We’ve Learned About Ourselves in Isolation

  It’s now January 2021, and, just like that, the United States has been in some semblance of quarantine for almost a year now. Workplaces have gone remote, masks have become a trendy fashion statement, class is now in session via Zoom, and the landscape surrounding sex and dating has changed dramatically. I couldn’t help but wonder - during a year in isolation, how have we grown in our relationships with our partners and with ourselves? How have we gotten acclimated to the “new normal” in ways we might not have even noticed in regards to our dating and sex lives? How have we become closer with our bodies and ourselves during this time of forced solitude?

  Here are a few of the lessons we’ve learned about ourselves and our bodies (and our libidos) during a year-long quarantine period:

  ● The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” couldn’t be more

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• Sexual Anxiety: We Shall Overcum!

  Posted: December 22, 2020

  Categories: Dating , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Relationships , Sex , Sexuality
  

   

  Lots of people have experienced sexual anxiety. Feeling anxious about our sex skills is totally normal, but it can really ruin a horny moment when it happens more than not

  I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and I’ve learned in therapy that anxiety is a future-oriented emotion. The majority of my anxiety comes from future-tripping – what if they have a terrible time? Maybe they think I’m too loose! I forgot to shave. They’re gonna leave me!

  Because of these anxious thoughts, I try to stay present when it comes to sex and not focus on a particular outcome. What can I say? I wasn’t born knowing how to bang.

  Sexual anxiety is something that people of all ages deal with, even if they consider themselves a sexual dynamo. Sometimes, this type of anxiety can be situational and pop up because of a new sexual encounter. Other people might find it hard to have great sex on a regular basis because they have an anxiety disorder. Oh hello!

   

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