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• Why Black Sex Work is Essential Work

  Posted: July 15, 2020

  Categories: Interview , Sex Ed , Sex , Sexuality
  

  If sex work is indeed “the world’s oldest profession”, and the end goal of that work is 100% customer satisfaction, then sex work is also the world’s oldest essential work. It makes little sense that such hostility and shame toward sex work and sex workers still exists, especially towards Black female sex workers.

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• 10 Sex Tips for Men

  Posted: June 30, 2020

  Categories: Sex Ed , Sex , Sexuality , Sex Toys , Fun Stuff
  

  There can be a lot of discrepancy between what men think women want in the bedroom and what they really want. You don’t necessarily have to go full Christian Grey, but you also don’t need to wait for an especially romantic occasion to have a seriously orgasmic time. Make things memorable and let the following tips be your guide.

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• Radical Self-Care

  Posted: June 16, 2020

  Categories: Personal Story , Tips , Self Care
  

  To take care of others, you must first take care of yourself. But what does "self-care" look like in the face of protest and social unrest? Erika E. Wade shares her personal story of how self-care has transformed from an indulgent buzz word into something more meaningful during the Black Lives Matter global uprisings of 2020.

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• I’m 28 and Just Learned What a Real Orgasm Is

  Posted: May 12, 2020

  Categories: Dating , Masturbation , Masturbation Month , Personal Story , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Relationships , Self Care , Sex , Sexuality , Sex Toys , Vibrators
  

  By Erika E. Wade

  This is gonna be sad, but I believe I’m having a crisis. What if sex hasn’t led to orgasms for me in the past. What if I was so good at faking it, I fooled myself? At this age, and with the amount of sex toys I have, I’m realizing having an orgasm during sex is, well, hard. Now I know what my Big O feels like, I’m going for it at all costs. Maybe you can too.

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• Breathe It: How to Incorporate Breathwork into Sex

  Posted: April 16, 2020

  Categories: Estoterica , Masturbation , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Self Care , Sex
  

  By Gabriela Herstik

  Our breath is our personal connection to the life-force energy inside us, but for many of us, we don’t notice our breath until it’s gone. In sex, this is especially important, and our breath can form a bridge between us and our partner or ourselves and our pleasure. When we ignore our breath, we are limiting our ability to feel, to express, and to connect; holding our breath limits our ability to feel into our body. By incorporating breathwork into sex and masturbation, we can form more purposeful connections to our partners and dive even deeper into our pleasure, while getting out of our heads and into the moment. In this post, Gabriela shares a handful of simple breathing techniques we can use before, during or after sex to connect more deeply to our erotic experience. This will include some tantric breathwork, as well as simple two, three and four part breaths that help to guide us into the present.

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• An Intro to Lesbian Sex: Next Level Intimacy

  Posted: March 18, 2020

  Categories: Dating , Gift Guide , Pleasure , Tips , Sex Ed , Relationships , LGBTQ , Sex , Sexuality , Sex Toys
  

  By Jessica Buck

  Provided consent is in place, taking your intimacy with someone to the next level means opening up a vulnerability that coincides with pleasure. We learn how to navigate this vulnerability with practice, but your first few times can be awkward and confusing, especially if you've received little to no true education on the physical and emotional logistics of "how to have sex." Let’s change that with a walk through of the basics of lesbian sex, because vulva on vulva action is worth the deep dive and frankly, it's the tits (pun intended).

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