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  1. Seduce Yourself: Taking Nudes as Sexual Self Empowerment

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    By Gabriela Herstik

    Taking nudes can be a powerful way to connect more deeply with yourself and your body, it can be something that brings you and your partner closer together, or it can simply become a ritual of self-love and adoration. Read on for your B Swish guide to taking nudes

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  2. Unwrap Sexy: Gifts That Keep on Giving

    Unwrap Sexy: Gifts That Keep on Giving

    By B Swish

    Season’s greetings, y’all! It’s that wonderful time of the year again to don your gay apparel and start picking out gifts for your lover, partner, or closest kinky friends. If you’re stuck on ideas, we here at B Swish recommend pleasure products as a guaranteed treat for those who’ve been naughty or nice—hopefully both! But as there are so many products on the market, you may be wondering how to pare down the options and pick out something that will provide each of them a real endorphin-rush— and how do you do it if you’re on a budget?

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  3. Re-evaluating My Sexuality

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    By Jessica Buck

    For as long as I can remember, I've found myself attracted to both men and women. When I was in school, there would be people that I felt gravitated to – first by their looks, like "wow, they are so pretty/cute, I want to get to know them." Then, it was their personality. Wanting to continue to get to know them and hope they thought I was as interesting/cool as I thought they were. At some point it would simply turn into a platonic friendship, mainly because I was young and didn't know what to do when you really liked someone – thinking it wasn't reciprocated – and thus starting a consistent cycle of suppressing feelings for fear of rejection.

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  4. Why You Should Incorporate Sex Toys into Partnered Sex

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    By Gabriela Herstik

    Sex should be fun, and while they’re called sex “toys” for a reason, there is still unfortunately plenty of stigma surrounding sexuality and how we enjoy it; whether the stigma is around who we engage with sexually, what we like or how we like to express ourselves. The work of unlearning harmful narratives around shame never stops! And one of the myths that we must unlearn is that liking sex toys, and bringing them into the bedroom, means that you don’t like your partner, or don’t feel like they can satisfy you sexually. The stigma around sex toys in general is extremely harmful; especially when it inhibits you from enjoying yourself during sex. And while it may seem awkward to uncomfortable to ask a partner if you can bring in a vibrator or cock ring to the bedroom, introducing toys into your sex life could be spark you need to reinvigorate your relationship, bring you closer to your partner, or simply make the sex more exciting.

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  5. Asking for Consent is Absolutely Sexy

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    By Erika E. Wade

    Why can asking for consent be so weird? In a lot of communities, it isn’t. In kink communities, consent conversations are as “normal” as fumbling with a condom wrapper in the dark. Why can’t we do that in mainstream society? It seems like consent requires a little more debate and disagreement for the rest of us, but it actually could be so easy. It's time to normalize talking about pleasure, and that includes boundaries. Keep it respectful. Keep it cute. Asking for consent is sexy too.

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  6. Reading Erotica: A Personal Essay

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    By Jessica Buck

    When I started masturbating, all I knew was channel 3 after 10 pm. But when my great aunt passed and we got a bunch of her stuff, I discovered my aunts love for a classic erotic novels. It was a new world for me and I loved it because I already loved reading in general. I'd sneak and read chapters late at night and hid the books under my mattress. THEN when I got a computer in my room, I discovered erotic stories on Xanga, a platform I used to frequently blog. This was my mid-day porn when I couldn't watch Channel 3 or be caught with an erotic novel in my hands. And thus shaped my Freshman-Senior summers of curiosity.

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  7. Let's Talk Fingers (and Toys) in Butts!

    Let's Talk Fingers (and Toys) in Butts!

    By Jessica Buck

    Butt play is fun, but a lot of people are apprehensive for obvious reasons. I’m still a newbie, but I’ve learned a lot in my anal explorations. In this post, I offer up everything I’ve learned about booty-play including a step-by-step guide to indulging your curiosity and some first hand accounts of my most recent experience trying out B Swish’s vibrating butt plug for the first time.

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  8. How I Learned to Love Lube

    How I Learned to Love Lube

    By Aimee Murillo

    I resisted lube for the longest time but I eventually decided to experiment. I ended up ultimately loving lube and this is what I learned in the process... plus some helpful tips on getting acquainted with the do's and don'ts of lube.

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  9. Communication Breakdown: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

    Communication Breakdown: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

    By Gabriela Herstik

    You deserve to have an abundantly rich sex life. But to get that, it's vital that you're able to ask for what you want in bed. This can be really difficult — it means releasing sexual shame, being vulnerable with your partner, and that you have to know what you’re into. Here's Gabriela Herstik on how, exactly, we can effectively communicate what we want in bed, and why this is so important for our pleasure and sense of sexual security.

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  10. I was a Fuckboy Magnet

    I was a Fuckboy Magnet

    By Erika E. Wade

    Sometimes your love life is a sitcom because you're actually a walking magnet for broken, emotionally unavailable, and non-committal partners. Or, sometimes you could secretly be giving off the vibes of a someone in need of a reminder of their own beauty and power. Here are some tips to help you get over him, and so into you.

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