Jessica Buck

 

Feeling Yourself

In constant search of the vibez, we’ve all been curious at one point or another, whether we act on that curiosity is a different story. Picture being home alone and (metaphorically) feeling yourself. These heightened inner emotions begin to make it harder and harder to not admire the beautiful, smart and amazing individual that you are. As that curiosity gets the best of you, maybe you want to take it to the next level and explore uncharted territory. At the crossroads of sexual exploration, you might be wondering, what would happen if I touched myself down there, will I like it? Is this weird? Normal?


Normal? Absolutely. Exploring your body is a completely natural part of life, not to mention growth. It’s your body, why not see how it reacts to certain stimulations? And to take it a step further, why not add in a little somethin' somethin' to level up your experience? Your hands can do a lot, but they can only do so much when it comes to masturbation. Luckily, there‘s an entire industry dedicated to your sexual pleasure, and vibrators are one of its simplest products to start out with. But we get it— it can seem overwhelming at first; so many vibrators, so many functions, so many questions. And if you happen to be on the shy side, it can definitely sound like A LOT, but if you just take a bit of time to educate yourself on the basics, you'll be able to figure out what your body responds to (in a good way), and which product work best for YOU. From there, it's a first class flight to pleasure town. Population: YOU.


First things first, let's talk vibrator types. Think about when you use your hand to masturbate, are you more into rubbing your clitoris back and forth, or inserting your fingers into your vagina? Keeping this in mind will help you choose the perfect vibrator type to cater to your needs.


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    The Classic

    There's the classic style, probably one you're most familiar with seeing. It's sleek, straight and simple with a long vibrating shaft, so you can insert it into your vagina or just use the vibrations to stimulate your clitoris.


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    The Rabbit

    Then there's the rabbit style vibrator, which is generally the most popular type—and for good reason. It has a long shaft, but also an appending set of "rabbit ears" meant to focus on your clit. So, this baby stimulates both internally and externally, AT THE SAME TIME (now you see why it's so popular).


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    The Bullet

    The bullet - Small, discreet and quiet. It can blend in with the contents of your purse, favoring a lipstick case or another beauty product, and is even small enough to fit in your pocket if you want. Plus, it's super quiet without taking any power away from the product itself (small, but mighty if you know what I mean).


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    The Wand

    Another iconic style of vibrator. The wand most resembles one of those massagers from Brookstone, so the handheld shaft itself does not vibrate, but the head makes up for it, packed with power meant to cater to your clit.


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    The G-Spot

    The G-Spot vibrator is another favorite among women and very intentional. It has a longer shaft, with the tip curving upward so you cannot only reach your G Spot, but also easily apply pressure for maximum pleasure. But proceed with caution (AKA be prepared), stimulating the G Spot often leads to squirting :)


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    The Egg

    The egg vibrator brings little more fun to the table. It's small (like an egg), fits perfectly in your vagina or stationed against the vulva, and comes with a remote so you can control every vibration in private, or public (you never know, there may come a time when your adventurous side takes over and wants to play).




Now that we've figured out which style you're most interested in, what's next? A great next step to buying your first vibrator is to take a trip to a brick and mortar sex toy shop and literally just look around. And before you say it, I know what you're thinking. "Aren't sex toy shops uber sketchy and intimidating?" At one point, maybe, but the stigma of sex toy shops being seedy, shady establishments now has been replaced with numerous feminist pleasure product stores that specialize in creating safe spaces for newcomers to explore and learn more about sexuality in general. There is no pressure to purchase anything once you're in the store, and the associates are super knowledgeable about the products they sell. It's literally their job to answer your many inevitable questions. What kinds of questions should you ask?


  • ● What kinds of vibrators fit your budget?
  • ● What is the shelf life of a vibrator you are interested in?
  • ● What are you expecting a vibrator to do for you (based on your personal interests)?

  • Read the labels, instructions and price points and pay attention to the best selling items; they're best sellers for a reason, right? See if any of the descriptions appeal to you. Getting a little hot and bothered while reading the back panel of the new rabbit vibrator? This could be an indication that it might be right up your alley, pleasure wise.


    Not comfortable just walking into a sex toy shop? In this wonderful age of technology, internet shopping is always an option. A few quick Google searches can help you compare vibrators based on style, brand and price, but I always urge you to READ THE REVIEWS! Any blogger with integrity won’t lie and are extremely helpful in the selection process. You can also ”check out some of our products that that are perfect for beginners. We pride ourselves as a company with providing amazing products that you'll love, while also respecting your privacy, so we always use plain, discreet packing for shipping; no need to have your neighbors in all your business, right?


    Above all else, trust yourself! The more you trust your body's reactions to your sexual exploration, the more comfortable you'll become and maybe you'll want to dabble in some different toys next time around.




     

    Peel back some layers and see what excites you. Shop discreet and play.