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If you’re big on sex, wellness and find personality quizzes fun, you may have already gone the path of self-discovery and have established your personality type as well as your favorite sex toy. But depending on the type of model used, there can be many ways to dig deeper into who you are and your specific sexual behaviors. While the widely-known Briggs-Meyer test has been used since the 1920s, the new millennium has unveiled a new technique that includes 9 basic personality types based on a person’s unique ways of relating to the world. The Enneagram accurately and clearly describes why you think, feel and behave in particular ways based upon your core fears and core desires. Since there are so many sex toys to choose from, it may be time to try something different now that you’ve de-coded another side of yourself. Spice up your sex life by choosing a toy that aligns with who you really are deep inside.

The thrill of oral sex has gone beyond the bedroom for many couples. From the kitchen counter, public bathrooms, and even underneath a table, depending on the lighting, there are no limits when it comes to giving and receiving. But when you combine oral sex and an element of danger, there’s something even more enticing about taking this sexual act on the road. While it may not be for everyone, especially for those with a poor driving record, the art of exceptional road head can turn a boring drive into a real wild ride. If you’re tired of being in the passenger position and want to do more than read out the GPS, read on to see how you can confidently take back driver’s seat on an all-new kind of terrain.

Some days call for a long shower, but when the day stretches you a little too thin, you may want to opt-in for a nice long bubble bath. While a relaxing soak in the tub may be just what you need to keep those grueling hours behind you, it may also be the perfect time to check in on your partner and see what kind of day they’ve had. Whether they’ve had a similar day from hell or a great one, having them join on the tub action can alleviate even more stress than you could have imagined. Hit the ultimate button on self-care and read on to see how B Swish can help you become an expert in bathtub sex if you do it right! 

WHAT'S MY KINK?

It seems every person on the planet has some kind of Kink that they're either interested in trying or desperate to keep doing. Having a special kind of consensual sexual interaction that you like the most does not make you a freak, at least not anymore. Where I live in LA, entire communities of kinky people get together under a common interest, and many of those interests are not exactly mainstream. It got me thinking. What is my Kink? I'm an open-minded lady. I'm tolerant, I'm accepting, I open my arms to all kinds. So why don't I have a kink? I went on a hunt to figure it out.

WHAT IS A KINK?

Since I'm no sex-meister, I referred to Los Angeles based marriage family and sex therapist Liz Selzer-Lang, LMFT, for a professional explanation. She explained that in the professional world they don't refer to someone as having a kink:

"Kink is a broad, umbrella term that describes many forms of sexual fantasy, erotic expressions, and identities which may involve sexual AND/OR psychological role-playing, bondage and discipline, sadomasochism, and other interpersonal dynamics."

Well, discovering a kink or kinky behavior isn't so easy. I realized as unprejudiced as I am, I'm going to have to get over various social taboos and personal hang-ups, and to do that, I have to educate myself on what's out there. What are the options?

WHAT ARE POPULAR KINKS?

According to Selzer-Lang, a popular kink or kink dynamic usually involves a power exchange. And after scrolling Reddit and other popular sites she's right on, but lawd there are so many! How will I ever find mine? I had to narrow them down to the ones that kept popping up.

AGE PLAY :Young girl and an old guy or young guy old gal. I did sleep with a 26-year-old when I was 34 but don't think that counts. Definitely gonna try this one.

ROLE PLAY: 

Sex & the City & the Quarantine: What We’ve Learned About Ourselves in Isolation

It’s now January 2021, and, just like that, the United States has been in some semblance of quarantine for almost a year now. Workplaces have gone remote, masks have become a trendy fashion statement, class is now in session via Zoom, and the landscape surrounding sex and dating has changed dramatically. I couldn’t help but wonder - during a year in isolation, how have we grown in our relationships with our partners and with ourselves? How have we gotten acclimated to the “new normal” in ways we might not have even noticed in regards to our dating and sex lives? How have we become closer with our bodies and ourselves during this time of forced solitude?

Here are a few of the lessons we’ve learned about ourselves and our bodies (and our libidos) during a year-long quarantine period:

● The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” couldn’t be more true.

Some of us may live with our partners, while some of us may live separately from them - and some of us may not be partnered up at all. Regardless, our absence (or lack thereof) from these people can skew our emotions and have us romanticizing (or dreading) certain relationships in our lives. Regardless, the old adage is true - absence makes the heart grow fonder - and quarantine surely has taught us a lot about the need for alone time. It’s healthy to have some time allotted in your day for self-care, even if you’re in a relationship.

● Communication is key.

The pandemic has changed the way we communicate with those who are significant to us. Screen time has become a substitute for face-to-face interaction, and body language and facial expressions have changed greatly with the advent of masks. Now more than ever, in all facets of our life - whether it be work, school, our social life, or the bedroom - we must communicate our wants and needs thoro

Lots of people have experienced sexual anxiety. Feeling anxious about our sex skills is totally normal, but it can really ruin a horny moment when it happens more than not

I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and I’ve learned in therapy that anxiety is a future-oriented emotion. The majority of my anxiety comes from future-tripping – what if they have a terrible time? Maybe they think I’m too loose! I forgot to shave. They’re gonna leave me!

Because of these anxious thoughts, I try to stay present when it comes to sex and not focus on a particular outcome. What can I say? I wasn’t born knowing how to bang.

Sexual anxiety is something that people of all ages deal with, even if they consider themselves a sexual dynamo. Sometimes, this type of anxiety can be situational and pop up because of a new sexual encounter. Other people might find it hard to have great sex on a regular basis because they have an anxiety disorder. Oh hello!

WHAT CAUSES SEXUAL ANXIETY?

The most recognized causes of sexual anxiety are feeling insecure about how well we do in bed, what we look like, or trouble with general intimacy.

Sexual anxiety can appear differently in males and females, but for the most part, it’s related to the fear that whatever they do in the boudoir may be disappointing for their partner. Because of this fear, females may lose interest in sex, have trouble getting aroused, or have difficulty having an orgasm. It can be more obvious in males, like difficulty getting an erection, keeping an erection, or cumming too soon.

Sometimes, a past traumatic experience - possibly sexual violence can cause anxiety. Or sexual anxiety can result from the way we were raised - feelings of guilt or shame around sex and our bodies. Anyone remember the old saying - if you keep doing that, you’ll go blind! And of course, there are social expectations or “norms” th

Hey--is my mic on? Good; I have a few things to get off my chest. To the surprise of literally no one, 2020 started ugly and it only got uglier. It’s been more than rough for everyone. This year didn’t stop at a global health pandemic and losing some of our most beloved icons; it threw in an extra helping of crazy ahhh weather too. It’s been ghastly, but like sex, life requires patience. Let’s all collectively breathe and agree to look at this from a different angle.

By Aimee Murillo

I resisted lube for the longest time but I eventually decided to experiment. I ended up ultimately loving lube and this is what I learned in the process... plus some helpful tips on getting acquainted with the do's and don'ts of lube.

By Gabriela Herstik

I’ve used plenty of sex toys in my day, but I have managed to go nearly 25 years without ever trying a wand style vibrator. As someone who loves an orgasm, I just couldn’t let myself pass up the opportunity to try one for myself. And when I realized B Swish has a wand style vibe for just $40, there was no way I couldn’t try it. So, I put it to the test and all I can say is…wow..

By Ashley Inman

Valentine’s Day is upon us, girls, boys, and everyone in between. As usual, the greeting card companies want us to celebrate through the lens of romantic love. That’s cute. We love couples! Some of us are in couples (or more!) and some of us are stoked to be single. There are so many ways to love and be loved in the world, so why not take the month of February as an invitation to make as much love as possible? Love for yourself, your friends, your lovers—whoever should come your way! Whether you plan to celebrate with your friend-with-benefits or your BFF, or your friend-with-batteries, Ashley Inman has compiled some O-worthy options to help you spice up the Hallmark holiday!