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  1. What Is My Kink?

    What Is My Kink?


    It seems every person on the planet has some kind of Kink that they're either interested in trying or desperate to keep doing. Having a special kind of consensual sexual interaction that you like the most does not make you a freak, at least not anymore. Where I live in LA, entire communities of kinky people get together under a common interest, and many of those interests are not exactly mainstream. It got me thinking. What is my Kink? I'm an open-minded lady. I'm tolerant, I'm accepting, I open my arms to all kinds. So why don't I have a kink? I went on a hunt to figure it out.


    Since I'm no sex-meister, I referred to Los Angeles based marriage family and sex therapist Liz Selzer-Lang, LMFT, for a professional explanation. She explained that in the professional world they don't refer to someone as having a kink:

    "Kink is a broad, umbrella term that describes many forms

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  2. Sex & the City & the Quarantine

    Sex & the City & the Quarantine

    Sex & the City & the Quarantine: What We’ve Learned About Ourselves in Isolation

    It’s now January 2021, and, just like that, the United States has been in some semblance of quarantine for almost a year now. Workplaces have gone remote, masks have become a trendy fashion statement, class is now in session via Zoom, and the landscape surrounding sex and dating has changed dramatically. I couldn’t help but wonder - during a year in isolation, how have we grown in our relationships with our partners and with ourselves? How have we gotten acclimated to the “new normal” in ways we might not have even noticed in regards to our dating and sex lives? How have we become closer with our bodies and ourselves during this time of forced solitude?

    Here are a few of the lessons we’ve learned about ourselves and our bodies (and our libidos) during a year-long quarantine period:

    ● The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” couldn’t be more true.

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  3. Sexual Anxiety: We Shall Overcum!

    Sexual Anxiety: We Shall Overcum!


    Lots of people have experienced sexual anxiety. Feeling anxious about our sex skills is totally normal, but it can really ruin a horny moment when it happens more than not

    I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and I’ve learned in therapy that anxiety is a future-oriented emotion. The majority of my anxiety comes from future-tripping – what if they have a terrible time? Maybe they think I’m too loose! I forgot to shave. They’re gonna leave me!

    Because of these anxious thoughts, I try to stay present when it comes to sex and not focus on a particular outcome. What can I say? I wasn’t born knowing how to bang.

    Sexual anxiety is something that people of all ages deal with, even if they consider themselves a sexual dynamo. Sometimes, this type of anxiety can be situational and pop up because of a new sexual encounter. Other people might find it hard to have great sex on a regular basis because they have an anxiety disorder. Oh hello!


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  4. Don’t Touch My Hair...Unless I Tell You To

    Don’t Touch My Hair...Unless I Tell You To
    Hey--is my mic on? Good; I have a few things to get off my chest. To the surprise of literally no one, 2020 started ugly and it only got uglier. It’s been more than rough for everyone. This year didn’t stop at a global health pandemic and losing some of our most beloved icons; it threw in an extra helping of crazy ahhh weather too. It’s been ghastly, but like sex, life requires patience. Let’s all collectively breathe and agree to look at this from a different angle.
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  5. How I Learned to Love Lube

    How I Learned to Love Lube

    By Aimee Murillo

    I resisted lube for the longest time but I eventually decided to experiment. I ended up ultimately loving lube and this is what I learned in the process... plus some helpful tips on getting acquainted with the do's and don'ts of lube.

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  6. I Tried a Wand Vibrator for the First Time and This is What Happened

    I Tried a Wand Vibrator for the First Time and This is What Happened

    By Gabriela Herstik

    I’ve used plenty of sex toys in my day, but I have managed to go nearly 25 years without ever trying a wand style vibrator. As someone who loves an orgasm, I just couldn’t let myself pass up the opportunity to try one for myself. And when I realized B Swish has a wand style vibe for just $40, there was no way I couldn’t try it. So, I put it to the test and all I can say is…wow..

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  7. The Best Vibe for Your Zodiac Sign

    The Best Vibe for Your Zodiac Sign

    By Gabriela Herstik

    We get it; sometimes you just wanna get off. In our opinion, sex toys are the perfect way to amp up your sex life, adding some extra good vibes whether you’re going solo or with a partner. Vibrators are a vagina-owning persons’ best friend, but with so many delicious and delectable options out there, the question isn’t if to start but where? We’ve turned to the cosmos for a little sexy inspiration, to help match up each zodiac sign with a vibrator that is sure to blow them away. Read on for your match made in heaven.

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  8. Talk Dirty to Me: Communication Guide For Those Shy Under the Sheets

    Talk Dirty to Me: Communication Guide For Those Shy Under the Sheets

    By Shelley

    No matter how shy you or your partner may be, everyone can increase their sexual experience with communication. Here's a practical guide on to how to talk dirty with confidence, get the pleasure you’re craving, and encourage your partner to keep the convo going!

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  9. Take Your Sex Toy Game from Mundane to Magic with the Bcurious Premium

    Take Your Sex Toy Game from Mundane to Magic with the Bcurious Premium

    By Gabriela Herstik

    As someone who knows what she likes both in and out of the bedroom, my relationship with sex toys is no different. While I have a few trusty vibrators and toys I can turn to when I need some pleasure pronto, I’ve been looking to invest and upgrade my sex life. Specifically, with a sex toy that won’t run out of battery when I’m mid-masturbation session. Though I do love internal toys, I’ve also been looking for an external vibe that does the trick without leaving my clit numb or making it feel like it’s going to fall off. Pretty much, my sex toy drawer needed an upgrade, and the Bcurious Premium came to the rescue to make that happen.

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  10. Bashful yet Curious: Here's What to Know About Buying Your First Vibrator

    Bashful yet Curious: Here's What to Know About Buying Your First Vibrator

    By Jessica Buck

    In constant search of the vibez, we’ve all been curious at one point or another, whether we act on that curiosity is a different story. It can seem overwhelming at first; so many vibrators, so many functions, so many questions. And if you happen to be on the shy side, it can definitely sound like A LOT. This primer will help you educate yourself on the basics in no time, so you'll be able to figure out what kinds of massagers work best for YOU. From there, it's a first class flight to pleasure town. Population: YOU.

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