By Jessica Buck

Provided consent is in place, taking your intimacy with someone to the next level means opening up a vulnerability that coincides with pleasure. We learn how to navigate this vulnerability with practice, but your first few times can be awkward and confusing, especially if you've received little to no true education on the physical and emotional logistics of "how to have sex." Let’s change that with a walk through of the basics of lesbian sex, because vulva on vulva action is worth the deep dive and frankly, it's the tits (pun intended).

By Gabriela Herstik

Like everything else, sex is an energy exchange. And for those of us who engage in casual sex, the energy isn’t always exactly what we expect. When we sleep with someone, we form a connection with them, even if it’s for one night; sometimes this connection dissipates, and sometimes it lingers. If we are aware of our subtle body, and the energy system along the base of our spine known as the chakras, then we can make sure that we cleanse and clear the lingering energetic remnants of our sexual partners. In this piece Gabriela Herstik shares some simple techniques for cleansing our auric and energetic bodies after engaging in casual sex. Through breathwork, visualization, and working with tools like sacred smoke and ritual baths, we can make sure that we’re honoring our energy as much as our physical body, and that we’re having the safest sex possible in every realm.

By Erika E. Wade

Growing up black in America is tough, especially when everyone but your own cultural group tells you how to do it. Apparently, it’s even more taboo for black women to touch themselves. Well, I’m Erika. I’m a black woman from Alabama, and I touch myself. And it feels really good.

By Gabriela Herstik

Taking nudes can be a powerful way to connect more deeply with yourself and your body, it can be something that brings you and your partner closer together, or it can simply become a ritual of self-love and adoration. Read on for your B Swish guide to taking nudes.

By Jessica Buck

For as long as I can remember, I've found myself attracted to both men and women. When I was in school, there would be people that I felt gravitated to – first by their looks, like "wow, they are so pretty/cute, I want to get to know them." Then, it was their personality. Wanting to continue to get to know them and hope they thought I was as interesting/cool as I thought they were. At some point it would simply turn into a platonic friendship, mainly because I was young and didn't know what to do when you really liked someone – thinking it wasn't reciprocated – and thus starting a consistent cycle of suppressing feelings for fear of rejection.

By Aimee Murillo

Season’s greetings, y’all! It’s that wonderful time of the year again to don your gay apparel and start picking out gifts for your lover, partner, or closest kinky friends. If you’re stuck on ideas, we here at B Swish recommend pleasure products as a guaranteed treat for those who’ve been naughty or nice—hopefully both! But as there are so many products on the market, you may be wondering how to pare down the options and pick out something that will provide each of them a real endorphin-rush— and how do you do it if you’re on a budget?

By Erika E. Wade

Why can asking for consent be so weird? In a lot of communities, it isn’t. In kink communities, consent conversations are as “normal” as fumbling with a condom wrapper in the dark. Why can’t we do that in mainstream society? It seems like consent requires a little more debate and disagreement for the rest of us, but it actually could be so easy. It's time to normalize talking about pleasure, and that includes boundaries. Keep it respectful. Keep it cute. Asking for consent is sexy too.

By Gabriela Herstik

Sex should be fun, and while they’re called sex “toys” for a reason, there is still unfortunately plenty of stigma surrounding sexuality and how we enjoy it; whether the stigma is around who we engage with sexually, what we like or how we like to express ourselves. The work of unlearning harmful narratives around shame never stops! And one of the myths that we must unlearn is that liking sex toys, and bringing them into the bedroom, means that you don’t like your partner, or don’t feel like they can satisfy you sexually. The stigma around sex toys in general is extremely harmful; especially when it inhibits you from enjoying yourself during sex. And while it may seem awkward to uncomfortable to ask a partner if you can bring in a vibrator or cock ring to the bedroom, introducing toys into your sex life could be spark you need to reinvigorate your relationship, bring you closer to your partner, or simply make the sex more exciting.

By Jessica Buck

Butt play is fun, but a lot of people are apprehensive for obvious reasons. I’m still a newbie, but I’ve learned a lot in my anal explorations. In this post, I offer up everything I’ve learned about booty-play including a step-by-step guide to indulging your curiosity and some first hand accounts of my most recent experience trying out B Swish’s vibrating butt plug for the first time.

By Aimee Murillo

I resisted lube for the longest time but I eventually decided to experiment. I ended up ultimately loving lube and this is what I learned in the process... plus some helpful tips on getting acquainted with the do's and don'ts of lube.

By Gabriela Herstik

You deserve to have an abundantly rich sex life. But to get that, it's vital that you're able to ask for what you want in bed. This can be really difficult — it means releasing sexual shame, being vulnerable with your partner, and that you have to know what you’re into. Here's Gabriela Herstik on how, exactly, we can effectively communicate what we want in bed, and why this is so important for our pleasure and sense of sexual security.

By Erika E. Wade

Sometimes your love life is a sitcom because you're actually a walking magnet for broken, emotionally unavailable, and non-committal partners. Or, sometimes you could secretly be giving off the vibes of a someone in need of a reminder of their own beauty and power. Here are some tips to help you get over him, and so into you.

By Krystyn Lambert

Many of us have struggled with staying present during intercourse, but when we are able to actively find ourselves in the moment, the enhancement is staggering. How can we train our brains to turn on and tune in to more mindful sex? Here's Krystyn Lambert with six practical techniques!

By Amara Purlle

Canna-curious? Have you heard the hype that combining cannabis with sex can be a potentially mind-opening journey? Well it’s hyped for a reason! At the time of publication, 33 American states have legalized medical marijuana, and ten of those states have legalized recreational marijuana use. Because of this, we're now incredibly spoilt for choice. And, if you’re in LA like us, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with all your options. In an effort to make it slightly less daunting, Amara Purlle humbly offers her own recommendations to guide you into next-level sexy times.

By Gabriela Herstik

✨Masturbation Month Special✨

If there’s one thing that I learned about sex in 2018, it’s that you’re responsible for your own pleasure. And, that you’re the best lover you’ll ever have. When I decided to enter into a relationship with myself, I put my own pleasure as priority. My solo sex sessions turned into rituals and my exploration of the erotic, BDSM and sex took a forefront in my life. When I became my own lover, I decided to figure out how to give myself the love I wanted, instead of looking for it outside of myself. This is what I learned, and why everyone should embark on a journey of intentional self-relationship.

By Gabriela Herstik

✨Masturbation Month Special✨

Masturbation is the best; it feels good, it’s good for you, and you can even use your orgasms to cast spells. What’s not to love? But like lovers, there’s an endless possibility of ways and reasons you may want to do or not do something a certain way. Sometimes you may want to do you quick and dirty. That’s hot. But sometimes you may wish to slow it down and add some meaning and intention to your self-love session. Also hot! And rather witchy, if we do say so ourselves. Sex magick, or raising sexual energy/orgasm to send to a desired purpose or intention, has been used by yogis, Pagans, occultists and pervs worldwide as a way to harness energy, heal, honor, transcend and create. Even if we’re not going to perform a whole sex magick ritual, we can take cues from these esoteric practices that offer us wisdom for connecting more deeply with our bodies. Inspired by erotic rituals, we’ve rounded up 9 ways to make your next masturbation session more magical.

By Jessica Buck

This is a story about a girl and her vibrator. Together, they are the two leading ladies in an embarrassing shit show.

by Ashley Inman

“Roleplay” is a word that evokes different things for different people, bringing to mind everything from elegant elves to naughty nurses. Roleplaying in your sex life is a way to celebrate and explore titillating and exciting aspects of your psyche which can tie deeply, and sometimes inexplicably, to those tingly feelings of arousal we all live for. The real trick is to be able to identify what exactly turns you on. At face value this question probably seems straightforward. But writing from experience, it's tough to get a leg up when first exploring sexual roleplay. Finding your fantasy ultimately means slipping into another skin, which gives you permission to indulge your curiosity and desire.

By Ashley Inman

Valentine’s Day is upon us, girls, boys, and everyone in between. As usual, the greeting card companies want us to celebrate through the lens of romantic love. That’s cute. We love couples! Some of us are in couples (or more!) and some of us are stoked to be single. There are so many ways to love and be loved in the world, so why not take the month of February as an invitation to make as much love as possible? Love for yourself, your friends, your lovers—whoever should come your way! Whether you plan to celebrate with your friend-with-benefits or your BFF, or your friend-with-batteries, Ashley Inman has compiled some O-worthy options to help you spice up the Hallmark holiday!

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By Amara Purlle

In the mainstream, the word “nurturing” is not typically associated with sex toys, but it’s a new year and a new year hopefully means you're also on a path toward discarding outdated notions, introducing healthy new notions that let you fully explore Next Phase you. It's 2019 and we should shop for erotic accoutrement like we shop for everything else. In this post, Amara Purlle gets frank about the possibility of learning about yourself through intimate personal device shopping.

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