Relationships

  1. Why You Should Incorporate Sex Toys into Partnered Sex

    one person embraces another in a bed with rumpled sheets

    By Gabriela Herstik

    Sex should be fun, and while they’re called sex “toys” for a reason, there is still unfortunately plenty of stigma surrounding sexuality and how we enjoy it; whether the stigma is around who we engage with sexually, what we like or how we like to express ourselves. The work of unlearning harmful narratives around shame never stops! And one of the myths that we must unlearn is that liking sex toys, and bringing them into the bedroom, means that you don’t like your partner, or don’t feel like they can satisfy you sexually. The stigma around sex toys in general is extremely harmful; especially when it inhibits you from enjoying yourself during sex. And while it may seem awkward to uncomfortable to ask a partner if you can bring in a vibrator or cock ring to the bedroom, introducing toys into your sex life could be spark you need to reinvigorate your relationship, bring you closer to your partner, or simply make the sex more exciting.

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  2. Asking for Consent is Absolutely Sexy

    two people embrace looking into each. other's eyes.  in a moment of intimacy

    By Erika E. Wade

    Why can asking for consent be so weird? In a lot of communities, it isn’t. In kink communities, consent conversations are as “normal” as fumbling with a condom wrapper in the dark. Why can’t we do that in mainstream society? It seems like consent requires a little more debate and disagreement for the rest of us, but it actually could be so easy. It's time to normalize talking about pleasure, and that includes boundaries. Keep it respectful. Keep it cute. Asking for consent is sexy too.

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  3. Communication Breakdown: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

    Communication Breakdown: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

    By Gabriela Herstik

    You deserve to have an abundantly rich sex life. But to get that, it's vital that you're able to ask for what you want in bed. This can be really difficult — it means releasing sexual shame, being vulnerable with your partner, and that you have to know what you’re into. Here's Gabriela Herstik on how, exactly, we can effectively communicate what we want in bed, and why this is so important for our pleasure and sense of sexual security.

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  4. I was a Fuckboy Magnet

    I was a Fuckboy Magnet

    By Erika E. Wade

    Sometimes your love life is a sitcom because you're actually a walking magnet for broken, emotionally unavailable, and non-committal partners. Or, sometimes you could secretly be giving off the vibes of a someone in need of a reminder of their own beauty and power. Here are some tips to help you get over him, and so into you.

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  5. Elevate your Sex with Mindfulness

    Elevate your Sex with Mindfulness

    By Krystyn Lambert

    Many of us have struggled with staying present during intercourse, but when we are able to actively find ourselves in the moment, the enhancement is staggering. How can we train our brains to turn on and tune in to more mindful sex? Here's Krystyn Lambert with six practical techniques!

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  6. What I Learned from Becoming My Own Lover

    What I Learned from Becoming My Own Lover

    By Gabriela Herstik

    ✨Masturbation Month Special✨If there’s one thing that I learned about sex in 2018, it’s that you’re responsible for your own pleasure. And, that you’re the best lover you’ll ever have. When I decided to enter into a relationship with myself, I put my own pleasure as priority. My solo sex sessions turned into rituals and my exploration of the erotic, BDSM and sex took a forefront in my life. When I became my own lover, I decided to figure out how to give myself the love I wanted, instead of looking for it outside of myself. This is what I learned, and why everyone should embark on a journey of intentional self-relationship.

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  7. Divine Pleasure - What is Tantra & How to Curate a Solo-Practice

    Divine Pleasure - What is Tantra & How to Curate a Solo-Practice

    By Ashley Inman

    ✨Masturbation Month Special✨Tantra has broken more than ever before into our contemporary lexicon with the prominence of resources like Barbara Carrellas’s Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century. It’s becoming less of a weird sound bite from Sting and being understood (and accepted) more a for what it is: a beautiful, personal exploration, an act of shared magick between partners. One of the best, most succinct explanations of tantra I’ve heard is from a mainstream health information outlet: “Tantra is a pleasure-centric practice that encourages self-exploration and mindfulness. It’s similar to meditation and can have benefits both in and out of the bedroom.”

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  8. Roleplay as Empowerment: How to Introduce Characters into Your Sex Life

    Roleplay as Empowerment: How to Introduce Characters into Your Sex Life

    By Ashley Inman

    “Roleplay” is a word that evokes different things for different people, bringing to mind everything from elegant elves to naughty nurses. Roleplaying in your sex life is a way to celebrate and explore titillating and exciting aspects of your psyche which can tie deeply, and sometimes inexplicably, to those tingly feelings of arousal we all live for. The real trick is to be able to identify what exactly turns you on. At face value this question probably seems straightforward. But writing from experience, it's tough to get a leg up when first exploring sexual roleplay. Finding your fantasy ultimately means slipping into another skin, which gives you permission to indulge your curiosity and desire.

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  9. Grocery Aisle Sex

    Grocery Aisle Sex

    By Jordana Lipsitz

    Going to the grocery store can be quite the snore. Mindlessly pushing a cart down aisle after aisle wondering, “What is life even? What is the meaning? Do I really need this much Greek yogurt?” Luckily, there can be more to the mundane experience of feeding yourself. In fact, there are a whole lot of sneaky fruit and veggie tips to perk up your sex life. The more natural the better! Grocery shopping has never been sexier. Jordana Lipsitz takes you on a grocery aisle odyssey, touring the tastiest products on this earth that can zest up your sex life. Truly a recipe for delight.

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  10. Discovery Channels: Sex Toys and Personal Growth

    Discovery Channels: Sex Toys and Personal Growth

    By Amara Purlle

    In the mainstream, the word “nurturing” is not typically associated with sex toys, but it’s a new year and a new year hopefully means you're also on a path toward discarding outdated notions, introducing healthy new notions that let you fully explore Next Phase you. It's 2019 and we should shop for erotic accoutrement like we shop for everything else. In this post, Amara Purlle gets frank about the possibility of learning about yourself through intimate personal device shopping.

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