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  1. Asking for Consent is Absolutely Sexy

    two people embrace looking into each. other's eyes.  in a moment of intimacy

    By Erika E. Wade

    Why can asking for consent be so weird? In a lot of communities, it isn’t. In kink communities, consent conversations are as “normal” as fumbling with a condom wrapper in the dark. Why can’t we do that in mainstream society? It seems like consent requires a little more debate and disagreement for the rest of us, but it actually could be so easy. It's time to normalize talking about pleasure, and that includes boundaries. Keep it respectful. Keep it cute. Asking for consent is sexy too.

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  2. Communication Breakdown: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

    Communication Breakdown: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed

    By Gabriela Herstik

    You deserve to have an abundantly rich sex life. But to get that, it's vital that you're able to ask for what you want in bed. This can be really difficult — it means releasing sexual shame, being vulnerable with your partner, and that you have to know what you’re into. Here's Gabriela Herstik on how, exactly, we can effectively communicate what we want in bed, and why this is so important for our pleasure and sense of sexual security.

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  3. I was a Fuckboy Magnet

    I was a Fuckboy Magnet

    By Erika E. Wade

    Sometimes your love life is a sitcom because you're actually a walking magnet for broken, emotionally unavailable, and non-committal partners. Or, sometimes you could secretly be giving off the vibes of a someone in need of a reminder of their own beauty and power. Here are some tips to help you get over him, and so into you.

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  4. What I Learned from Becoming My Own Lover

    What I Learned from Becoming My Own Lover

    By Gabriela Herstik

    ✨Masturbation Month Special✨If there’s one thing that I learned about sex in 2018, it’s that you’re responsible for your own pleasure. And, that you’re the best lover you’ll ever have. When I decided to enter into a relationship with myself, I put my own pleasure as priority. My solo sex sessions turned into rituals and my exploration of the erotic, BDSM and sex took a forefront in my life. When I became my own lover, I decided to figure out how to give myself the love I wanted, instead of looking for it outside of myself. This is what I learned, and why everyone should embark on a journey of intentional self-relationship.

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  5. Divine Pleasure - What is Tantra & How to Curate a Solo-Practice

    Divine Pleasure - What is Tantra & How to Curate a Solo-Practice

    By Ashley Inman

    ✨Masturbation Month Special✨Tantra has broken more than ever before into our contemporary lexicon with the prominence of resources like Barbara Carrellas’s Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century. It’s becoming less of a weird sound bite from Sting and being understood (and accepted) more a for what it is: a beautiful, personal exploration, an act of shared magick between partners. One of the best, most succinct explanations of tantra I’ve heard is from a mainstream health information outlet: “Tantra is a pleasure-centric practice that encourages self-exploration and mindfulness. It’s similar to meditation and can have benefits both in and out of the bedroom.”

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  6. Roleplay as Empowerment: How to Introduce Characters into Your Sex Life

    Roleplay as Empowerment: How to Introduce Characters into Your Sex Life

    By Ashley Inman

    “Roleplay” is a word that evokes different things for different people, bringing to mind everything from elegant elves to naughty nurses. Roleplaying in your sex life is a way to celebrate and explore titillating and exciting aspects of your psyche which can tie deeply, and sometimes inexplicably, to those tingly feelings of arousal we all live for. The real trick is to be able to identify what exactly turns you on. At face value this question probably seems straightforward. But writing from experience, it's tough to get a leg up when first exploring sexual roleplay. Finding your fantasy ultimately means slipping into another skin, which gives you permission to indulge your curiosity and desire.

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  7. The Best Vibe for Your Zodiac Sign

    The Best Vibe for Your Zodiac Sign

    By Gabriela Herstik

    We get it; sometimes you just wanna get off. In our opinion, sex toys are the perfect way to amp up your sex life, adding some extra good vibes whether you’re going solo or with a partner. Vibrators are a vagina-owning persons’ best friend, but with so many delicious and delectable options out there, the question isn’t if to start but where? We’ve turned to the cosmos for a little sexy inspiration, to help match up each zodiac sign with a vibrator that is sure to blow them away. Read on for your match made in heaven.

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  8. Keep it Close: Surviving Long Distance Relationships

    Keep it Close: Surviving Long Distance Relationships

    By Amara Purlle

    Ahh, long distance relationships. LDRs...lovers daring romance...lengthy doting rituals...loooong dry-spell run.... In this post, Amara Purlle cast the net out to...the net...to see what her people’s more recent LDR experiences have been with Facetime in lieu of face-to-face time.

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  9. Why Everyone Should Have a "Yes, No, Maybe" List

    Why Everyone Should Have a "Yes, No, Maybe" List

    By Gabriela Herstik

    No matter your relationship status, one thing still holds true; you have a right to pleasure. Scream it from the rooftops because it’s true. You have a right to know what feels good for you, you have a right to know what sets your soul aflame, you have a right to know what you’re into, and you have the right to claim it. But the reverse is also true; you have a right to know what you don’t like, you have a right to have boundaries, and you have the right to say no, always. A “yes, no, maybe” list is a list of things you’re into, some things you’re willing to try and things you’re absolutely not willing to try. This isn’t a document set in stone, instead, it’s something that can help you discover what turns you on, while also helping inspire your love and sex life.

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  10. The ABCs of 1-2-Threesome: A Navigation Guide for the Relation-shipped

    The ABCs of 1-2-Threesome: A Navigation Guide for the Relation-shipped

    By Jess at B Swish

    Sharing is Caring . . . or, at least that's what they taught us as kindergarteners. For some of us, this is still true well into adulthood as we explore our pleasure. Sex with multiple partners can be an enticing erotic daydream, but unlike our fantasies, a satisfying threesome usually doesn't just spontaneously happen. It's not easy to get the cosmos to align for a perfect private pleasure party. But! As we also learn as youngsters: the greatest satisfaction always follows a hard day's work.

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