By Jessica Buck

For as long as I can remember, I've found myself attracted to both men and women. When I was in school, there would be people that I felt gravitated to – first by their looks, like "wow, they are so pretty/cute, I want to get to know them." Then, it was their personality. Wanting to continue to get to know them and hope they thought I was as interesting/cool as I thought they were. At some point it would simply turn into a platonic friendship, mainly because I was young and didn't know what to do when you really liked someone – thinking it wasn't reciprocated – and thus starting a consistent cycle of suppressing feelings for fear of rejection.

By Aimee Murillo

Season’s greetings, y’all! It’s that wonderful time of the year again to don your gay apparel and start picking out gifts for your lover, partner, or closest kinky friends. If you’re stuck on ideas, we here at B Swish recommend pleasure products as a guaranteed treat for those who’ve been naughty or nice—hopefully both! But as there are so many products on the market, you may be wondering how to pare down the options and pick out something that will provide each of them a real endorphin-rush— and how do you do it if you’re on a budget?

By Erika E. Wade

Why can asking for consent be so weird? In a lot of communities, it isn’t. In kink communities, consent conversations are as “normal” as fumbling with a condom wrapper in the dark. Why can’t we do that in mainstream society? It seems like consent requires a little more debate and disagreement for the rest of us, but it actually could be so easy. It's time to normalize talking about pleasure, and that includes boundaries. Keep it respectful. Keep it cute. Asking for consent is sexy too.

By Gabriela Herstik

Sex should be fun, and while they’re called sex “toys” for a reason, there is still unfortunately plenty of stigma surrounding sexuality and how we enjoy it; whether the stigma is around who we engage with sexually, what we like or how we like to express ourselves. The work of unlearning harmful narratives around shame never stops! And one of the myths that we must unlearn is that liking sex toys, and bringing them into the bedroom, means that you don’t like your partner, or don’t feel like they can satisfy you sexually. The stigma around sex toys in general is extremely harmful; especially when it inhibits you from enjoying yourself during sex. And while it may seem awkward to uncomfortable to ask a partner if you can bring in a vibrator or cock ring to the bedroom, introducing toys into your sex life could be spark you need to reinvigorate your relationship, bring you closer to your partner, or simply make the sex more exciting.

By Jessica Buck

When I started masturbating, all I knew was channel 3 after 10 pm. But when my great aunt passed and we got a bunch of her stuff, I discovered my aunts love for a classic erotic novels. It was a new world for me and I loved it because I already loved reading in general. I'd sneak and read chapters late at night and hid the books under my mattress. THEN when I got a computer in my room, I discovered erotic stories on Xanga, a platform I used to frequently blog. This was my mid-day porn when I couldn't watch Channel 3 or be caught with an erotic novel in my hands. And thus shaped my Freshman-Senior summers of curiosity.

By Jessica Buck

Butt play is fun, but a lot of people are apprehensive for obvious reasons. I’m still a newbie, but I’ve learned a lot in my anal explorations. In this post, I offer up everything I’ve learned about booty-play including a step-by-step guide to indulging your curiosity and some first hand accounts of my most recent experience trying out B Swish’s vibrating butt plug for the first time.

By Aimee Murillo

I resisted lube for the longest time but I eventually decided to experiment. I ended up ultimately loving lube and this is what I learned in the process... plus some helpful tips on getting acquainted with the do's and don'ts of lube.

By Gabriela Herstik

You deserve to have an abundantly rich sex life. But to get that, it's vital that you're able to ask for what you want in bed. This can be really difficult — it means releasing sexual shame, being vulnerable with your partner, and that you have to know what you’re into. Here's Gabriela Herstik on how, exactly, we can effectively communicate what we want in bed, and why this is so important for our pleasure and sense of sexual security.

By Erika E. Wade

Sometimes your love life is a sitcom because you're actually a walking magnet for broken, emotionally unavailable, and non-committal partners. Or, sometimes you could secretly be giving off the vibes of a someone in need of a reminder of their own beauty and power. Here are some tips to help you get over him, and so into you.

By Krystyn Lambert

Many of us have struggled with staying present during intercourse, but when we are able to actively find ourselves in the moment, the enhancement is staggering. How can we train our brains to turn on and tune in to more mindful sex? Here's Krystyn Lambert with six practical techniques!

By Amara Purlle

Canna-curious? Have you heard the hype that combining cannabis with sex can be a potentially mind-opening journey? Well it’s hyped for a reason! At the time of publication, 33 American states have legalized medical marijuana, and ten of those states have legalized recreational marijuana use. Because of this, we're now incredibly spoilt for choice. And, if you’re in LA like us, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with all your options. In an effort to make it slightly less daunting, Amara Purlle humbly offers her own recommendations to guide you into next-level sexy times.

By Gabriela Herstik

✨Masturbation Month Special✨

If there’s one thing that I learned about sex in 2018, it’s that you’re responsible for your own pleasure. And, that you’re the best lover you’ll ever have. When I decided to enter into a relationship with myself, I put my own pleasure as priority. My solo sex sessions turned into rituals and my exploration of the erotic, BDSM and sex took a forefront in my life. When I became my own lover, I decided to figure out how to give myself the love I wanted, instead of looking for it outside of myself. This is what I learned, and why everyone should embark on a journey of intentional self-relationship.

By Ashley Inman

✨Masturbation Month Special✨

Tantra has broken more than ever before into our contemporary lexicon with the prominence of resources like Barbara Carrellas’s Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century. It’s becoming less of a weird sound bite from Sting and being understood (and accepted) more a for what it is: a beautiful, personal exploration, an act of shared magick between partners. One of the best, most succinct explanations of tantra I’ve heard is from a mainstream health information outlet: “Tantra is a pleasure-centric practice that encourages self-exploration and mindfulness. It’s similar to meditation and can have benefits both in and out of the bedroom.”

By Gabriela Herstik

✨Masturbation Month Special✨

Masturbation is the best; it feels good, it’s good for you, and you can even use your orgasms to cast spells. What’s not to love? But like lovers, there’s an endless possibility of ways and reasons you may want to do or not do something a certain way. Sometimes you may want to do you quick and dirty. That’s hot. But sometimes you may wish to slow it down and add some meaning and intention to your self-love session. Also hot! And rather witchy, if we do say so ourselves. Sex magick, or raising sexual energy/orgasm to send to a desired purpose or intention, has been used by yogis, Pagans, occultists and pervs worldwide as a way to harness energy, heal, honor, transcend and create. Even if we’re not going to perform a whole sex magick ritual, we can take cues from these esoteric practices that offer us wisdom for connecting more deeply with our bodies. Inspired by erotic rituals, we’ve rounded up 9 ways to make your next masturbation session more magical.

What happens when our vibrators die? I asked a bunch of random women on the internet what they do to ditch their toys in an environmentally sound manner. No one said anything besides, “I just threw it in the garbage.” If time on our planet is of the essence, then it’s past time normalize the responsible disposal of pleasure products. We should start a discussion about recycling sex toys. We want you to vibe for generations to come.

By Jessica Buck

This is a story about a girl and her vibrator. Together, they are the two leading ladies in an embarrassing shit show.

by Ashley Inman

“Roleplay” is a word that evokes different things for different people, bringing to mind everything from elegant elves to naughty nurses. Roleplaying in your sex life is a way to celebrate and explore titillating and exciting aspects of your psyche which can tie deeply, and sometimes inexplicably, to those tingly feelings of arousal we all live for. The real trick is to be able to identify what exactly turns you on. At face value this question probably seems straightforward. But writing from experience, it's tough to get a leg up when first exploring sexual roleplay. Finding your fantasy ultimately means slipping into another skin, which gives you permission to indulge your curiosity and desire.

By Gabriela Herstik

I’ve used plenty of sex toys in my day, but I have managed to go nearly 25 years without ever trying a wand style vibrator. As someone who loves an orgasm, I just couldn’t let myself pass up the opportunity to try one for myself. And when I realized B Swish has a wand style vibe for just $40, there was no way I couldn’t try it. So, I put it to the test and all I can say is…wow..

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By Aimee Murillo

Orgasm is unfortunately an experience that has eluded too many women even in today’s increasingly sex-positive environment. Part of the reason for that may be the fact that women’s orgasms are a hardly-touched topic in most sex education classes. Hell, even in movies and television, the depiction of an orgasm during intercourse always seems represented as a “climax” between a man and a woman at the same time, even though that's hardly ever the case. In this post, Aimee Murillo explores why pleasure-inclusive sex-ed is so important and offers up some examples of ideal products to use to help you gain your own sexual satisfaction, or even just broaden your horizons.

By Jordana Lipsitz

Going to the grocery store can be quite the snore. Mindlessly pushing a cart down aisle after aisle wondering, “What is life even? What is the meaning? Do I really need this much Greek yogurt?” Luckily, there can be more to the mundane experience of feeding yourself. In fact, there are a whole lot of sneaky fruit and veggie tips to perk up your sex life. The more natural the better! Grocery shopping has never been sexier. Jordana Lipsitz takes you on a grocery aisle odyssey, touring the tastiest products on this earth that can zest up your sex life. Truly a recipe for delight.

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